You care what people think

Dating a girl 3 years younger than you

The only way you can figure this stuff out is to talk openly about your expectations. And this is good for romance because you most likely don't want to date yourself. An age gap can come with some challenges, just like all relationships come with their own challenges.

One of these concerns might be an age difference. Let her know that you're a person she'll be dating, not a weird father figure or security blanket. So let's give couples and each other the benefit of the doubt and leave the math out of it. Two people in a real relationship are almost never going to make exactly the same amount of money.

You could arguably trace any

You don't have anything in common. You could arguably trace any decision, romantic or otherwise, back to your parents if you try hard enough, but there's no need to obsess over that.

People are so quick to cry mommy or daddy issues when they encounter a couple with any sort of age difference. Determining someone's maturity level is a lot more complicated than a simple math problem. It can't be a deep relationship.

While not everyone moves through life at the same pace and ticks off the same milestones at the same time university, work, marriage, babies, buying a house, etc. Again, though, these are not hard and fast lines or rules, and you need to draw your own moral lines. If you've ever met someone where the only thing you have in common is your age, you know that can get old really fast.

Regardless of the answers, most of us like to believe that love can conquer any differences. And let's face it, making these assumptions isn't a grown-up way to approach dating, either. She may think that guys her own age are immature and directionless, and be looking for an older guy to provide more stability for her.

You don't have anything

However, it's worth taking a second look at whether this phenomenon should continue to be taken for granted. Being attracted to someone rarely makes you ignore every other aspect of connection, though, so a majority of relationships come with depth. Someone always has to earn less, but this can always change over time, and it's never a reflection of either person's age. Which is all well and good, except if you're as directionless and financially insecure as the men she's trying to avoid.

Being physically attracted to each other is a normal, healthy part of relationships, but that's rarely the only reason why people are in them. You have the internet, so use it. Other variables like race, class and gender identity will also factor in to the power balance of your relationship. In this case, you'll still need to treat carefully for all of the above reasons, but if you're really feeling each other, go for it. But it can also serve as a nice reminder that your age doesn't have to dictate a certain personality.

Not only do these opinions not matter, they say a lot more about those expressing them than the couple in question. You can't understand each other's references. We all want to find love and when we do, we just want people to accept and support that as long as no one gets hurt. There are plenty of people in this world to connect with on the basis of so much more than how many years you've been alive. When there's an age gap, it's easier to unfairly assume that the attraction is only physical.